Monthly Archives: August 2012

A Gentle Storm

Isaac is here.  He is actually lovely.  The rain began this morning around 4:00 with just a whisper, and it has continued like that.  It feels like a benediction.  At the moment the radar map shows a gigantic feathery swirl … Continue reading

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They Played!

Yesterday we had an unscheduled site-swap and meet-and-greet.  The boys had been getting along so well through the door that I got a little too relaxed and left the door open wide enough for Bugsy to slip in. At the … Continue reading

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Meet-and-Greet and Site-Swap

Yesterday Teresa came by and we did a meet-and-greet and site-swap with the boys. But before I get into that, essential news that some might file under Too Much Info – but those who remember what we went through with … Continue reading

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Day Three

What a difference, between introducing Fangie and introducing Barney.  It’s only the morning of the third day Barney’s been here.  No late-night door-excavations, no howling, no hissing – and only two incidents where (sleep-dazed) I wasn’t sure whether Bugsy was … Continue reading

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And Now Barney

Here he was, yesterday, saying goodbye to his foster mom. Mom and Barney were together since March.  Clearly they love each other.  I love mom, too, for keeping my beautiful boy all those months until I showed up. No affection … Continue reading

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Moving

The grief is softening.  It’s no longer dropping me in my tracks, ripping me to shreds.  It is as I had so hoped, even in the worst of it – by breathing, opening my attention, moving very very slowly, dropping … Continue reading

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You Who Know

By a great mercy, the close of the Shiva mourning period for Fangie coincided with the once-monthly meeting of a group of friends who practice Nonviolent Communication. So these stalwart like-minded souls helped me say goodbye to my dear little … Continue reading

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Shiva Mouse

Day 7, this last day of Shiva. We, Fangie and I, have been as mice, crushed in the jaws of the ravening black werewolf of death and grief that has hunted us down.  Now that the monster has dispatched whom … Continue reading

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Sitting Shiva

This is Day Five of the Seven Days of Shiva.  I’m trembling as I write this.  This morning I woke feeling like I remember I felt after I had minor surgery.  That was exactly three years ago, just two months … Continue reading

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Bugs Knows What To Do

This is how it is, on the third day since.  Another awful sleepless night.  Tormented by images that won’t leave.  Guts in turmoil.  Sick with grief. Pre-dawn:  Bugsy sidles up shyly, head-butting, biscuit-making.  Dawn:  Bugsy [repeat]. Morning.  Sitting down to … Continue reading

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